You have given all the resources and information, but you are correct – it’s all attitude. My parents are business owners and two managers just bought brand new cars. They know the employees can’t afford the payments… and even if they do, it is setting them back from where they could be.
So many need attitude adjustments and the realization that they need to take charge of their own lives and be responsible for their debts, bills and future. *sigh* sore spot with me. J
Good for you, though, for doing what you could to steer them right.
I watch a house for an elderly neighbor
Her daughter moved her to assisted living near her and her husband to full nursing care. Mom just doesn’t want to let go of the house, but she can’t live alone–can’t drive and can barely see. Her son doesn’t seem to care and her step kids don’t care about either parent. They are coming up on the 1 yr mark of this arrangement and the daughter is really pushing her mom to sell the house. She has shelled out money for the a/c unit, the landscapers, the car in the garage and then they sometimes send me money because I’m watching the house.
I guess I’ll keep on watching the house, I know that there are people that want to buy it if/when they go to sell.
We have had that trouble with my dfil
going back to when my dmil was still alive. She passed in 2014. We have tried telling dfil that he can get things like meals on wheels, and such just so he doesn’t have to try to cook for one, etc, and he won’t have anything to do with it. According to him, he “manages just fine.” No, he is not weatlthy and living as a miser. He is not wealthy but he is not penniless either, just stubborn.
He cannot do many of the things he used to enjoy, like fishing. It is harder to maintain his place and get yard work done. Yet he won’t consider moving 5 hours south to south Louisiana where his 2 grown kids are. Of course we are selfish, wanting him closer so we can keep a better eye on him. 😉 We would all chip in (1 son, 1 dd, and the outlaws LOL) to help set him up physically and financially in a place upon selling his current home. However, he will hear nothing of it yet.
My fear is of him falling, having a heart attack (he’s a former quad bypass patient), stroke, etc. while alone. He lives rurally and I can’t say he has someone check on him every day, those probably many days. It is hard. We want him to be indepedent but know that his needs are met.