Years ago..

when dh’s last living grandparents were still around, they hosted a July 4th reunion. Actually the summer we were to marry, they held a shower for us. Very sweet.

Now you must know that these reunions were in Louisiana and it always HOT, HOT, HOT. Did I say it was (is) hot? Much of the time we were outside at these reunions. Dh’s grandfather was a stickler for NOT running the a/c. We all just had to suffer together. It was not that they couldn’t afford it, they just didn’t run it.

Back in 1986 dh’s sister and I were both pregnant and due in October. I distinctly remember dh’s aunt going to dh’s grandpa (her father in law) and saying, “We have 2 pregnant women here and they need to be in air conditioning.” She then went in and turned on the a/c. That is the first time I ever remember them running it. Guess where my dsil and I stayed the rest of the day? LOL

2 Melani –

Am I remembering correctly that your partner originally wasn’t very interested in DG, but that situation has slowly changed over time? And that your partner is slowly getting ‘on the bandwagon’ in terms of sharing information about debt repayment, staying on a budget, etc? If so, very good news! I wasn’t sure if I was remembering correctly but hopefully that’s the case.
I agree that regardless of gender status for married couples or those contemplating marriage, getting on the same page financially is very very good news and prudent planning. I didn’t with either of my DH’s prior to getting hitched, and that was an issue in my divorce from my first husband. My current DH and I have come a long way towards getting on the same page, and it’s made SUCH a huge difference.
In any case, here’s hoping you are able to clearly sort out which type of legal status works best for you and your partner. I don’t envy you the task of sorting that out but at least now you have that option.